Being so accommodating
Next year will it be as important to me as it is today?When I am old one day, would I really remember this particular disagreement? If only I could hear between the words, listen carefully to the tone of voice and read the other’s expression without projecting my own issues, fears and wants, I could possibly get hold of the fear driving their anger and be able to say something to them that will give them some peace and respite. At the end of the day, I think that there is only one question.Is it right to punish someone for something that they have no control over?Furthermore, at least 50% of the responsibility lies with me.So being truthful is about being able to express how you feel about a situation.But behaving in a helpful manner is quite a different story. Well I suppose it is easier to look at it from the opposite perspective and say what is not helpful. I draw a line quickly and if you cross it, well that’s it for our relationship. As an adult, I have grown to believe that things are not random, that people are in my life for a reason.When I was younger, I was just too nice and accommodating and that allowed people around me really take advantage of me. My feelings were always sacrificed for another’s happiness or needs. How am I going to find out what the reason is if I don’t allow the relationship to develop? Where do you draw the line between accommodating others and being abused.
I don’t have the answer, but following Buddha’s advice, I would keep my mouth shut and not say a word and let the scenario play itself out.
Also, being truthful can only be in relation to yourself.
You can’t be truthful about someone else’s experience.
The last year and a half have been an extraordinary opportunity for me to do something that really makes me feel proud.
It is hard to explain the kind of amazement and pleasure it has given me to assist families create new life and opportunities for love.