Being too picky dating
I’m 39 years old and I’m engaged to a woman I adore. I want to be there for her but it feels like she’s always demanding so much time and energy.
I know you’re supposed to “compromise” in a relationship but it seems like I’m making all the sacrifices and I’m starting to feel like this relations...
), if something bugs you over and over, you just can’t shake it, and you find it’s wedging a wall between you and your partner, then it’s a REAL issue and it needs to be confronted.
In some areas it’s really helpful to hold the same values as your partner like when it comes to marriage, parenting, or religion.
Show him the way to get a happy reaction out of you and he might just graduate the 3 Never swallow an issue just because it's the beginning of the relationship and you're afraid to alienate or turn off the other person.But the fact is that when you make comments, however lightly, disrespecting my values and my choices, it makes me feel like you don't respect me. No man wants to be seen as “the bad guy” in the eyes of the woman he cares for. So when you’re setting a boundary and essentially telling a man that a certain behavior won’t fly with you, you want to be careful with your tone so that It also helps to minimize the damage, like calling the issue “silly but important to me.” It helps to say, “It makes me feel disrespected and I know that’s not your intention.” This way he knows that he hasn’t failed you to the point of no return. He will see that he has a clear path to make you happy and (hopefully) he will take it.He doesn’t need to feel embarrassed for hurting you unintentionally this whole time. You never know, he could be teasing you for the same reason boys who like girls in elementary school pull their hair.But when it comes to cats and food, we’re in the territory of, “it’s okay to NOT be on the same page.” The truth is that it doesn't matter if this guy doesn't like cats or he thinks being vegetarian is stupid, those are his opinions and he's got every right to them. Whenever you find yourself in a relationship with someone and you feel disrespected, it’s time to set a boundary.But it does matter that he's disrespecting your values and your choices. Many people have never been taught how to set a boundary in a compassionate, non-accusatory way.