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With my current setup with Adam, he knows that yes, I am attracted to other people and am sleeping with some. And there’s no confidence booster like remembering that it’s me whom he comes home to and loves deeply. He knows all of my quirks, he knows what makes me tick and how to reason with me.Nobody knows me like Adam does, and nobody is going to know him like I do.We build and modify the relationship—and the rules—as we go. We started with very few, and now we have a few more that we’ve devised along the way.There have been instances where something has felt uncomfortable, or times we’ve felt hurt, so we've modified.Once, I saw a Facebook profile of someone he ended up sleeping with, and she was absolutely stunning.That was hard for me because I couldn’t help but compare myself to how I perceived her online (most of which was just illusions filled in by my very own brain, of course). Just because he was the cause of my hurt, it didn’t mean I couldn’t wait to run into his arms and have him comfort me. In monogamous relationships in the past, I was incredibly jealous all the time.
One married couple I’m friends with has a couple of girlfriends between them, and they also have their own partners (she has both male and female partners, and he has female partners).
But society told me I had to be with one person at a time, with the goal of choosing one person forever. After a really great, long-term, successfully monogamous relationship ended, I was suddenly single in my late twenties and enjoying the freedom and the variety. Adam was fun and our chemistry was fantastic and rare, and though we kept it strictly physical, with those boundaries clearly defined throughout, spending time together was becoming the highlight.
I would often fall into a cycle of trying to make that work but eventually letting temptation get the best of me, and failing both parties of the relationship; especially my partner. Eventually, the inevitable conversation came up naturally about what we were, and what we could be.
When I really stop to think about it, I know that there’s very little chance that he’s seeing anyone who is going to be better for him than I am.
We’ve removed the ownership that can come with a conventional relationship.