Dating a vampire 2016
Depending on how picky you are, some of those people you date may not be waiting till marriage like you are. Here are 5 tips on getting the most out of a relationship with somebody who’s had sex before.
Sometimes the more you want a person, the more their sexual past bothers you.
They’re a person who really wants to make you happy and to be with you, and you feel bad for hurting them over something they can’t control now.
Say these words to them: “I’m sorry, the more I like you it just gets hard for me to think about your sexual past.
Often portrayed as sexy or seductive, consider that the vampire may represent a situation or person in your life that seemed alluring at first, but is now exhausting or depleting.
As a character aspect of your personality, there may be some habit, behavior or emotional trait that is literally sucking you dry.
Not doing so can suck the life force out of us until we face what we are resisting.
Maybe they had sex before with one person but only a couple of times.
Maybe they have slept with a couple of people but only in committed relationships. If you’re a virgin who regularly dates non-virgins, then you’re going to date people who have all kinds of sexual histories.
Jealousy, hurt, anger, wounded pride, injustice…all of those feelings are going to tear at you. Especially in the early stages of waiting till marriage, finding another virgin can be so important to you that once you compromise on it (i.e., by dating somebody who’s a non-virgin), it can become all you can see.
You don’t see the person as a whole…you see the perfect wedding night/pure marriage you’ll never be able to have if you stay with them. How they treat you, who they are, and how much you enjoy them should be hugely important factors. Some of those other qualities can be even more rare than virginity. But given that the rest of the world is full of one night stands, casual sex, and “hook up culture”, maybe the fact that your girlfriend/boyfriend has only had sex with one other person in the context of a long term relationship (or whatever) isn’t so bad.. Appreciate that in the grand scheme of things, your girlfriend/boyfriend may be much closer to your sincere, genuine idea of sexuality than he/she is to those “other” people’s warped and soulless view of sex.