Dating a younger woman pros and cons
Would you rather have your parents or your siblings sit down and play dominoes with you? Q: But doesn't a lot of the security in large families come from the older children raising the younger children?
Is this fair to the older children, especially the first daughter, who often has to shoulder much of the responsibility for her younger siblings?
If your goal is to heat a house for 24 hours, and you can heat that house with fifty gallons of oil, you wouldn't need to worry about supplying that house with a hundred gallons of oil per day.
One way to gauge if parents are giving their children enough time and attention to produce well-adjusted, secure, reasonably happy, and altruistic adults, is to look at those children when they reach adulthood. I have friends with one or two children who tell me that it's a major problem in their neighborhood of a very few children to find a friend for their child to play with every afternoon.
All of the problems in the world could be solved if there were good people. If you see the world in purely physical terms, then of course, the larger the population, the less resources are available to each person; each one gets a smaller sliver of the pie.
But if you see the world in spiritual terms – that the planet is here to provide a setting for souls to learn and grow, and that each soul who comes into this world has a unique mission and shines a unique light – then the more people, the more light.
Q: If this is indeed the goal of your community, then we should find numerous examples of adults who are significantly helping the world. Two of my daughters and one of my sons are teachers.
My second daughter directs a special education facility.
But in the religious community here, I've been meeting educated, modern women who make a positive ideal out of large families.
Living in the exotic Old City of Jerusalem, and needing to make ends meet by renting out our guest room, I have hosted many young, accomplished American women travelers as my boarders.
Over herb tea in my kitchen, some have wanted to talk about Eastern religions, some about Israeli politics, and some about feminist issues.
I certainly was not qualified to expound on the merits or demerits of large families.
So I arranged for my vexed boarder to meet with one of my teachers from a Jerusalem women's college, an articulate mother of 11 children.