Dating engagement marriage
The fact that there's actually a market for married people in online dating baffles us a little.
Why even get married if you're just going to be cruising around the dark online world of married dating sites?
This may seem like common sense, but trust me, it needs to be said.
If each of you feels that you should talk to someone that you trust (of the same sex) about fears or concerns you may have about your sexual relationship — especially the wedding night itself — then do that as your wedding approaches.
You don't need to talk about it constantly as a couple, and you don't need to do an in depth study of Song of Solomon with your fiancé two months before your wedding.
For more ideas on this, see "How can I prepare for our wedding night in a God-honoring way? This is important: Don't buy into the secular myth that you are somehow inferior or failing your new spouse if you don't show up as a sexual expert on the night of your wedding. If you are already a sexual expert on the night of your wedding, then you have, somewhere along the way, blatantly strayed from God's design for sexuality in your life. Get solid, biblical marriage counseling, either from the pastor who will conduct the wedding service or from some other person who is mature in the faith and in marriage.
Refer to "Biblical Dating: Growing in Intimacy" for more details on this. First, don't spend significant time talking about what your sex life will be like once you're married.
While we can't blame the online dating sites for creating this dilemma, these couples are aware of the choices they're making and the consequences that come with these decisions.
The wedding day is just like every other day in the Christian life — it is primarily about God.
A wedding is a worship service in which two people happen to get married. At the end of the regular Sunday morning service, the two people getting married would either come down to the front of the church or simply stand where they were and take their vows.
Once you take marriage vows, you have what a sacred sanctity owed to your spouse.
You've promised to be there for them through more than just sickness and health, but until death.