Dating selfish lover
I’ve been there, my friends have been there, and it’s so frustrating and makes zero sense.
At the time, I truly, genuinely, wholeheartedly believed the things I was saying and, to some extent, they were true.
Eric does a great job explaining what might be going on in your guy’s mind but I have some insights that, although from a female perspective, will be of great value as well. The experience caused me to completely shut down emotionally.
I was aloof, I was hard to read, I didn’t get too close, I was present but never available, essentially, I was a guy (in the psychological sense anyway! My ‘guy’ behavior caused the actual guys was seeing to take on the ‘girl role’ and they were always way more into it than I was (this was also due to my aforementioned heartbreak which rendered me numb).
However, it didn’t stay dropped for long and soon it was ALL we would talk about.
D would pester and push asking, in every way he could, why I so adamantly refused to be his girlfriend.
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It was time to have ‘the talk.’ He brought up the subject casually at first, wondering if he could start introducing me as his girlfriend.