How to stop intimidating others
For example, you are at a dinner party, the hostess has set a beautiful table. You never really know how the intimidator feels or what he/she truly needs from you.6. Intimidation is done to teach you that you and your needs don’t matter.
The intimidator looks your way and says, “you should get xxxx to teach you how to set a table like this.” This is a backhanded way of complimenting the hostess while also putting you down.5. And, the first step in breaking away from the intimidator is to fully realize that you matter as much as he/she.
Offensive and intimidating behavior can be as serious as threats of physical danger or as seemingly innocent as teasing.
It comes in a variety of forms, from sexual harassment to passing around offensive cartoons.
She went off the wall angry and made a scene in the shop and turned an ugly wrath on her husband. He turned around and walked out of the shop, leaving her seething. The intimidator loves nothing more than putting you down in front of others. Maybe your spouse is always “shocked” at the way you handle life.
I suppose over the years he has learned to put space between himself and his intimidator. It can be in the form of a loving “tease” or down right mean. The intimidator requests something and then complains when you give him/her what was requested. They lay down the law and expect you to follow their law. Only thing, the laws don’t apply to the intimidator. Maybe it is as simple as the way your spouse sits or stands when communicating with you. It can be as severe as physical violence, hurtful words, and threats to your loved ones.
Once she realized he wasn't going to buy the jewelry she went off the wall angry. The behavior can come from other employees, vendors or even bosses.The level of offense depends on your staff--it may take the form of offensive teasing about religious traditions, rude comments, offensive jokes or comments about sex, gender, background, race or affiliation.Calling a spouse stupid, an idiot or things worse sends a clear message that they are thought little of. The intimidator can be a sweet talker when it comes to getting something he/she wants.Using negative names to label a spouse makes the intimidator feels superior and the victim inferior. Beware, though, if you don’t agree he/she will lower the boom.