Parent help on dating teens
Make consequences that fit the rules that were broken, for example if they come home late, they have to come home earlier next time.
Think of restricting the boundary a little then expanding it once your teen has demonstrated they deserve another chance.
If you’re from my generation you’ll remember the song that started…
“Here’s a story / of a lovely lady / who was bringing up three very lovely girls…” Most of us could probably sing the rest of the song by memory.
Similarly a 16 year old could rightly expect to have different boundaries to 13 year old.
The other factor that determines reasonableness is demonstrated capacity to be responsible and trustworthy.
Teens mature at different rates and are affected in different ways by those around them.
For these reasons determining when your teen is ready to have their boundaries expanded is very much a case-by-case assessment.
However there are some issues that are pretty common amongst households with teenagers.Establishing and maintaining clear and appropriate boundaries for and with our teenagers fits in the latter category.Whether the issue is communication, discipline, safety, conflict, or developing independence, boundaries is part of the answer.Having clearly stated and agreed boundaries means everyone understands the lay of the land and what the expectations are.Instead of debating and arguing every time your teen asks for something, the boundary acts as an objective reference point that helps determine the outcome.