Rules for dating for teenagers
Rules and discipline that work for children are often inadequate for teens.
Teenagers are at a point in their life when they are beginning to mature and take on more responsibilities, such as driving, dating, and working, but still need, and want, boundaries and guidelines, especially because many teens have a sense of invulnerability.
“It’s not your parents’ dating anymore,” concedes Robin Gurwitch, a clinical psychologist at the Duke Center for Child and Family Health.
Are they confident and able to take care of themselves? Do they look physically more mature than they are, emotionally?
Kids today don’t plunge into dating without first going through the “talking to each other” phase.
This means a boy and girl who feel an attraction spend time together, whether alone or in groups, then text and/or Snapchat in-between.
Parents may joke that it’s an experience they want their child to have -- just not until somewhere around the age of 30. A 6th grade girl may say, "Jacob is my boyfriend," but what does that mean?
Seriously, though, when is your child ready to date? "At this age, kids use dating labels but aren’t ready to have much direct one-on-one interaction beyond maybe sitting together at lunch or recess," says Dale Atkins, Ph D, a family therapist in New York.