Sex fast and free
Let your fountain be blessed, and rejoice in the wife of your youth, a lovely deer, a graceful doe.
Let her breasts fill you at all times with delight; be intoxicated always in her love.
For the wife does not have authority over her own body, but the husband does.
Likewise the husband does not have authority over his own body, but the wife does. In the Greco-Roman world of his day, marriage was often a mere social arrangement.
This is what several porn addiction counselors prescribe for addicts and their spouses during the initial months of recovery. But more importantly, the person struggling with pornography or sex addiction needs to work proactively about learning true intimacy. Laaser isn’t alone in the 90-day abstinence concept. Patrick Carnes, founder of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, himself a 30-year veteran in the field of addiction therapy, also requires this of his patients.
For many addicts, their porn-saturated minds are numb to everyday pleasures and joys.
A sexual fast also reinforces an important truth for the spouse: she or he is not to for the partner’s addiction.
It is easy for a spouse to feel like if they were more sexually available, prettier, or thinner, the partner wouldn’t need porn.
This powerful neuro-cocktail of dopamine, norepinephrine, oxytocin, vasopressin, endorphins, and serotonin is responsible for the physical aspects of porn addiction (including withdrawal symptoms).
These neurotransmitters and hormones are part of the “reward circuit” in the brain.